Nigerian mothers are a set of mothers who are much-loved for disciplinary yet loving methods at child training, however new mothers can sometimes face a really challenging time with their babies.
Every baby is different and every mother is different. A lot of people don’t understand this, so some people make it a point of duty to give new mums, whether the advice is asked for or not. Learning from the experiences of others but not taking it as gospel if you feel differently, is key.
Below are 6 kind of things many new mums have to contend with:
Babies are uncontrollable
Ever been in a commercial bus and the woman sitting near you has an active baby strapped to her back to sitting on her lap, then suddenly the child starts to play with or even pull your hair, ear ring, bag or shirt and at first its all fun and game until you start to get annoyed but can’t show it because its just a baby. Well, news flash!!! That’s what kids do and even yours will do the same, so new mums shouldn’t feel embarrassed when this happens. One day, I was in out doing some shopping and there she goes, screaming, fighting and crying she wanted to get down from her buggy and run round the store! I jejely dropped my shopping bag and left the store.
Everyone knows better than you
As long as it is your first child, you definitely going to hear different kind of things from different people on the same subject. For instance, you wrap your baby up in the sun, someone is going to say the weather is too hot, don’t wrap her up like that, you don’t wrap her up in the sun someone is going to say ‘please wrap the baby up, its sunny and the baby is too fragile for all that sun. So at the end its left to you to what you think is right for you and your baby.
Is that a boy or girl?
A lot of people ask this type of question a lot and the truth is, they do not recognize how annoying that question sounds. You see a baby in a dress and you still go on to ask if the baby is a girl or a boy. So I was at the airport and this lady ask me if my baby was a boy or a girl because she had no hair then. Note: #MyYumYum was wearing a fuchsia pink dress and a a light pink headband and she was wearing earrings! If you really can’t tell a baby’s gender, ask a question like, “How is your baby doing?” I’d will likely follow up with, “She is doing great, but she just started teething!” Find out the gender without making a us feel like she has a gender-less child.
Carrying your baby always
Most new mums have probably heard this phrase: “you’re going to spoil him by holding him so much. You should just let him cry it out. ”I heard it countless times. Even those who committed the offense in their own time make it a point of duty to remind you how you should just drop your baby and go because holding her too much would make her addicted to be held. “Hello… I just want to bond with my baby! Leave us alone” I’d scream in my head.
It only gets worse
When parents are in that newborn phase — no sleep, constant feedings, and no time for themselves — sometimes all they have to keep their sanity is the knowledge that it will get better, but some ‘know it all’ old mums make it worse by saying the work keeps getting more tedious. Please say nice things!
Your baby is big oh!
After pushing a 4kg baby out of me. I believe I should be able to take good care of that baby. A lot of people say so many stuffs! Fade, Ha! Your baby is too big o! What outfit age is she wearing now?! What are you feeding her? I think you’re feeding this baby too much! Goodness. Na my Pidkin, Go born yours oh!
I’d say, get to know your baby and know what works for the two of you!
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xoxo,
Lush
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Every baby is different and every mother is different. A lot of people don’t understand this, so some people make it a point of duty to give new mums, whether the advice is asked for or not. Learning from the experiences of others but not taking it as gospel if you feel differently, is key.
Below are 6 kind of things many new mums have to contend with:
Babies are uncontrollable
Ever been in a commercial bus and the woman sitting near you has an active baby strapped to her back to sitting on her lap, then suddenly the child starts to play with or even pull your hair, ear ring, bag or shirt and at first its all fun and game until you start to get annoyed but can’t show it because its just a baby. Well, news flash!!! That’s what kids do and even yours will do the same, so new mums shouldn’t feel embarrassed when this happens. One day, I was in out doing some shopping and there she goes, screaming, fighting and crying she wanted to get down from her buggy and run round the store! I jejely dropped my shopping bag and left the store.
Everyone knows better than you
As long as it is your first child, you definitely going to hear different kind of things from different people on the same subject. For instance, you wrap your baby up in the sun, someone is going to say the weather is too hot, don’t wrap her up like that, you don’t wrap her up in the sun someone is going to say ‘please wrap the baby up, its sunny and the baby is too fragile for all that sun. So at the end its left to you to what you think is right for you and your baby.
Is that a boy or girl?
A lot of people ask this type of question a lot and the truth is, they do not recognize how annoying that question sounds. You see a baby in a dress and you still go on to ask if the baby is a girl or a boy. So I was at the airport and this lady ask me if my baby was a boy or a girl because she had no hair then. Note: #MyYumYum was wearing a fuchsia pink dress and a a light pink headband and she was wearing earrings! If you really can’t tell a baby’s gender, ask a question like, “How is your baby doing?” I’d will likely follow up with, “She is doing great, but she just started teething!” Find out the gender without making a us feel like she has a gender-less child.
Carrying your baby always
Most new mums have probably heard this phrase: “you’re going to spoil him by holding him so much. You should just let him cry it out. ”I heard it countless times. Even those who committed the offense in their own time make it a point of duty to remind you how you should just drop your baby and go because holding her too much would make her addicted to be held. “Hello… I just want to bond with my baby! Leave us alone” I’d scream in my head.
It only gets worse
When parents are in that newborn phase — no sleep, constant feedings, and no time for themselves — sometimes all they have to keep their sanity is the knowledge that it will get better, but some ‘know it all’ old mums make it worse by saying the work keeps getting more tedious. Please say nice things!
Your baby is big oh!
After pushing a 4kg baby out of me. I believe I should be able to take good care of that baby. A lot of people say so many stuffs! Fade, Ha! Your baby is too big o! What outfit age is she wearing now?! What are you feeding her? I think you’re feeding this baby too much! Goodness. Na my Pidkin, Go born yours oh!
I’d say, get to know your baby and know what works for the two of you!
Sharing is Caring. Please comment and Share!
xoxo,
Lush
