Pressure Ladies put on Men to get Married because of their parents and the society.

Men stress us ladies out so much. Just two days ago, I was talking my friend Mayowa about some crazy guys we dated and the things we went through when we were single…Ko funny rara. It is the dream of most ladies to get married. However, men do not always play along. This leads to many ladies being unhappy in a relationship as they are not sure of where the relationship is going. Parents of the girl do not help matters as they ask their daughters, “My daughter, when will you introduce HIM to us? You know you are not getting younger oh.” Chei, iya Fade tormented me with that statement. The young lady remembers all these and resorts to pressuring the man by all sorts of means. Subtle and not-so-subtle means are employed. Some of these means are:

Verbalizing and asking to be married.
Baby when are we getting married? This happens when the lady feels the man is not showing any signs of proposing. However, it makes many guys freak out if they are not yet ready to settle down with you. He’s just catching fun and farfing about with you.

Getting pregnant for the man.
Some women feel they can trap a man with pregnancy. Times have changed. Many men are not going to be lured into marriage by a pregnancy; rather they prefer to take responsibility for the baby and continue with their bachelorhood and you will become the baby mama. So ladies, watch out!

Bribing their way into the man’s heart with gifts and sex.
This usually happens to women in their thirties who feel time is no longer on their side. They look for a man who is not as rich as they are and seek to buy him by such means. It usually boomerangs because the man just bides his time and enjoys the gifts till he finds a more suitable girl with higher self-esteem.

 

So how does a woman ensure that she does not waste her time in a relationship? It is very simple. The relationship should be clearly defined before she consents to dating the man. If the man cannot ask you out directly, don’t assume both of you are dating. I did this a number a number of times… Its wrong and you will get your hurt. DON’T ASSUME! He will just use you and if you venture to ask in the future, he will say, “Oh, but we are just friends. I thought you knew that!”

From time to time, a progress chart of the relationship should be taken. Don’t be afraid to ask the man, “Where is this relationship going?” If the man cannot give you a satisfactory answer, it’s time to reevaluate your relationship. Be wise!

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