On Love and Money

So of us have boyfriends and some of us are married.

I've always learnt never to mix man and money.
Some men will refuse to love their wives if their wives don't drop money for them. It's sad.

In most home, the wives are the breadwinners.  I'm not saying this isn't okay but ehn! It's demeaning to the man.

So a friend of mine, Gbemi buzzed me yesterday morning and she said her friend acquired a property in Abuja, Nigeria. She's married and but her hubby isn't doing financially well.

I admire her die and I told Gbemi that I'm very happy for her friend. And I asked if the house was built using using her maiden name or her hubby's name or Mr and Mrs. Gbemi couldn't answer. I told her to speak to her friend about it.

Another friend, Labake stopped saving just before she got married to this guy. She's been working for about 6 years before she got married. She's been trying to get a car for the past of couple of years. When she eventually bought the car, the car was collected by the hubby. So technically she bought the car for him while she keeps going round London carless. Thank God for great transport system in the city of London.

Another friend opened joint accounts with her hubby immediately they got married and she hardly has access to the account. Hubby gives her peanuts to spend monthly.  Attimes she can't even afford to use her car to work cos she can't afford to buy fuel for her car for the full month on the peanuts she gets from her hubby.

This people I described above are always Mr and Mrs around town. The man will love up because of the money they are getting from these woman. They are the types you see the hubby will come and pick up after work, go to Owanbe's together.

But some woman that don't part with their money have to do virtually everything for themselves. They hubby won't give her loving! My friend Taiye once said, Lush as long as my money dey inside my pocket I no send loving.

My question is, Why can't some men love their women without them dropping money.

I remember dating one dude for a couple of months, all this dude was concern about was money. Borrow me some money, Fade. I'm broke are his usual words. I sojied myself and broke it off.

Women are suppose to be helpers not breadwinners. Some women have other responsibilities like taking care of their aged parents, taking care of their siblings and etc.

If you are in a toxic relationship like those I described above... You have to soji your self.

xoxo, Lush