Readers Mail - Living in Limbo and Better Life Seeker

Living in Limbo, No way forward.

Lush,
I've been since Feb 2013. My hubby and I live in different countries and we didn't see regularly. He comes to my base about 2ce a year. My visa application has been rejected twice so I can't visit him. We have no children.
I've been telling my husband that we should apply for my spouse visa so that I can join him but he keeps giving me one excuse or the other.
A friend of him lives in the same province as him so they see each other regularly. They live around the same area. Over the weekend, my friend called me and gave me a bad news, my husband of three is married with 2 kids to a white lady.
I don't know how to confront him. I wish I can travel there to see him and we can talk face to face. We talk every day and we Skype. He recently sent me an iPhone so that we can FaceTime and we've FaceTiming for the past two months. We do late at night calls.
My friend sent me a picture of him, his wife and kids. For your eyes only Lush.
I don't know if my friend is lying.
My hubby has no concrete reason why we can't apply for spouse visa.
I'm sitting in limbo.
I'm 34 years old o Lush.
Where will I start from if this man actually has a family?

My response:
Gosh, I wish I can tell you to move on but its difficult. Get his parents/family involved. Also try to talk [Do not fight] to him before you make any decision. Good luck

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Better Life Seeker

I'm 45 years old and I have no children. I was working as a security officer a few years back in Dubai when I met this beautiful lady.

She told me she was 40. I was 37. She was married before. She had 3 kids from her previous marriage. I don't have any. We got to know each other and I really liked her. I was a security officer in the hotel she stays whenever she visits Dubai. She would invite me into her room when I'm not working. We had sex on several occasions.

She lives in the US. She invited me over the US. I liked US. In Dubai, I lived in a shared accommodation with 6 of us in a room. It was pretty shitty and I earned only AED 1250 ($340) a month. So I wanted a better life and she knew I wanted a better life.

On a second visit to the US, we decided to get married and after we got married. She filed for my Visa and all. I'm now an American Citizen. Thanks to her.

The issue is, she lied about her age and she's currently 64 years old and she can't have children again. We met 8 years ago. She's very lucky and she doesn't look her age at all.

Now, I'm 45 years old and I have no child and she can't give me a child. I want to marry a young girl in Nigeria so that I can have kids.

Will she forgive me? I do love my wife dearly.

My response.
Oga, You opened your eyes clearly and married an old woman and you now you got the better the life you've always wanted and you want to leave her for a younger lady. Think twice. Don't bite the finger that fed you.