How to Field Off questions about when you are getting Married

“Fade, when are you getting married?”, “Do you have a boyfriend?” “Why aren’t you married?” are some of the rude questions I had to endure as a single lady. Funnily enough, no one asks you why you are married or why you have kids. It is assumed that everyone must want to get married and if you aren’t yet married, you should be unhappy about it.

Really, it’s no-one’s business why you are not yet married. True, most people who ask such questions mean well, but they unwittingly put ladies under pressure to get married. I’m sure none of my readers would want to be party to a woman running hastily into a marriage she will surely regret.

Below are some ways to field off questions about why you aren’t yet married.

Ask the enquirer another question.
You can field off such a question by asking the enquirer another question, without coming across as being unpleasant. If the person asking you is single, you can say something like “Jeez, I don’t know. Why aren’t you yet married? Do you know when you will marry?” This will make the person realize the inappropriateness of such a question. If the person asking you is married, just smile and say something like “Why should I?” or “Why do you ask?”

Divert the conversation.
You can politely divert the questioner’s attention by changing the topic tactfully. Whenever this question comes up, say something like “I really don’t know why. But did you hear that Ade got married to Titi?” The reply will surely divert the questioner’s attention and you can then move the conversation onto safer ground.

Dismiss the question in a polite way.
If someone, say your mum or a person you find annoying asks you about it, dismiss the question by saying something like “I’ll get married (have a boyfriend) when everybody stops asking me about it.” This will surely let the person realize you really don’t wanna talk about it.

There’s really no need to get upset with this question or similar questions. Most people who ask mean well but are insensitive to the discomfort such questions cause. Please, if you do not intend to get married, don’t go into the demerits of marriage especially with a married person. The questioner is going to feel insulted.

Now, I’m sure my male and female readers know just how annoying such questions are and will refrain from asking such in future.

So, It’s my Birthday Today and I’m indeed grateful to God Almighty for his blessings over my Family and I.

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