Consequences of a Low Self-Esteem in Relationships

It is good for a woman to have high self-esteem. In fact, every woman would do well to boost her self-esteem because a lack of it attracts you to the rejects of the male sex. There are certain limiting beliefs one has to drop and new beliefs you need to acquire. One of such beliefs is to see any man who you consent to be with as being very lucky to have you because your experiences, thoughts, opinions, skills, ideas are a lot to offer to him and his life would not be as enriched as it is now if not for you. When you are aware of your self-worth, you tend to attract men who will reinforce this belief in you and you will be less willing to put up with behavior that makes you unhappy. Either he shapes up or he ships out!
Some of the consequences of low self-esteem are:


You become boy-crazy.
This is because you believe you are not worth much, so you struggle and strain to attract men to yourself. This is what makes some women become histrionic and dress indecently; just because they don’t believe they are worth much. How sad!


You settle in relationships.
When your self-esteem is low, you jump at a man who shows interest in you and you mistake the attention of a man for love. This will inevitably attract a narcissist to you who will treat you badly.


You see yourself as unlovable.
In a relationship, you do not believe that a man can ever love you so you test your partner and constantly doubt his love for you. Your disbelief in the honesty of his motives eventually becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy in which the man stops loving you and leaves you for another woman.
You fantasize and idealize your man.
Low self-esteem brings fantasies of a man who will save you from your wretched life (or so you see it) in its wake. When a man shows up, you idealize him by blowing his good side out of proportion without realizing he is a fallible human being. However, a woman with high self-esteem is so secure in herself that she does not expect a man to rescue her. As such, she does not spend time dreaming of the time she will meet him and get married. Of course, she wants marriage, but she has a relaxed attitude towards marriage.

Knowledge of the symptoms and consequences of low self-esteem as outlined in this blog post will help you steer away from patterns of low self-esteem and gravitate towards relationships that will make you feel better about yourself.

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