Emotional Unavailabilty

This may be an unfamiliar term for most of my readers but it has been around for quite a while. An emotionally unavailable partner is one who creates barriers to intimacy and makes you feel unloved and unwanted. A typical example of emotional unavailability is not being into those who like you but feeling drawn to those who are unlikely to reciprocate your affection & interest. I used to be like that, eeww!

The chemistry between you and the emotionally unavailable person can feel so strong, that you fall for the individual. Always remember: just because you feel something for someone does not mean s/he is your soul mate or twin flame.

There are a few signs that either you or a potential partner is emotionally unavailable. Kindly read on.

Men who hit on you (chaik) with flattery.
The guy who does not bother making an in-depth conversation with you but try to woo you with compliments about how beautiful you are, how they will love to date someone as hot as you, etc. Watch out! Such men prefer the chase to the catch and by the time you begin dating them, you discover that there isn’t much substance to the relationship.

Does he believe in marriage?
Has he been hurt so much that he no longer sees himself as being able to give his all in a relationship? Are you considering a person who says he doesn’t believe in marriage or never wants to marry? Unless you want just a casual relationship, you are likely to get hurt. No matter how perfect a man/woman may seem, if s/he does not want to get married, don’t think you will be the one to change their mind. Move on!

Have you met any of his friends and family members?
Be wary of relationships where one of the partner says they don’t want their circle of friends to know about you. Such a person is not emotionally available. If you have been dating for weeks or months and you have never met any of his friends or family members & he doesn’t want to meet yours, it is a warning signal. Take the bull by the horns and move on before you get too emotionally involved with this person.

I believe that my readers now have an idea of what emotional unavailability means. Check yourself and be sure you are not the emotionally unavailable person or dating an emotionally unavailable person. Don’t be like a friend of mine that put her life on hold for 5 years trying to convince her man to marry her! If your love is unrequited, move on

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