What Makes Love Last?

It is not by chance that most movies and romance novels end with a kiss and the two lovers getting married. This is because the greater challenge is making the love last between both partners and the writers don’t want to bore their readers with the gory details.

However, marriage is not a romance novel and we need to know how to make love last. This is because no-one comes out of a divorce a happier person. Divorce leaves scars on the person that takes time to heal.

The sixty four thousand dollar question is: what makes love last? Kindly read on.

Loyalty.
We need to learn to be loyal in our marriages and stop making negative comparisms with other people. Someone once told me of a man who has dated about 100 women because he never felt any of them was the one. He always felt that the next exciting person was out there if he could hold on a bit longer, so he never fully gave his best. Remember that in a marriage, there will always be persons richer, more beautiful, smarter, more athletic, more of whatever you want in a partner. That’s when loyalty kicks in.

Practice random acts of kindness to your loved one.
Couples who practice more compassion towards each other have happier marriages. To be compassionate, learn to understand why your partner feels the way s/he does. If they’ve had a bad day, rather than take it personally, be full of empathy and put yourself in their shoes. Surprise your spouse with a small gesture once every day. Something as simple as a hug as your husband is leaving for work will go a long way.

Be attentive!
When your partner is talking to you, listen! Do not tune your spouse out. He may want to stay beside you as you watch TV or cuddle beside you for just a little while. When you fulfill your spouse’s need for attention, s/he will feel loved and this will make the love last between the two of you.

Learn to say I’m sorry!

When you are wrong, learn to apologize. This will go a long way in nurturing the bond between the two of you.

Love is a work in progress. The tried and true suggestions given above will help make your love last.

 

Till Next time,
xoxo , Lush