How To Inject More Affection Into Your Marriage

We’ve seen it: those marriages where the husband and wife have a hard time being civil to each other.  They are in it only because of the children.  It is truly a sad sight to behold.  However, this need not be so.  A marriage ought to be refreshing and a source of inspiration to everyone who encounters it.

It is because of this I have decided to write about how to inject more affection into your marriage so that you can read and consider how best to apply the suggestions stated herein to uplift your marriage.

• First, you need to define affection.

Affection means different things to different people.  It is important that you clarify in your mind what affection is so that you can know how best to go after it and in so doing, increase affection in your marriage.  Your spouse’s definition of affection might be quite different from yours.  To your husband, affection might mean sex after a long day at work while to you; it might mean snuggling up beside him as you watch TV.

• Do you truly love yourself?

This is a question you need to ask yourself. To receive love from others, we need to learn to give it to ourselves first.  Find out self-confidence boosting strategies and apply them.  Saying positive affirmations to yourself, e.g. I love myself! will help you a great deal.

• Am I insatiable?

Some women are just insatiable.  Nothing their husband does is ever good enough, affectionate enough; loving enough, kind enough… the list goes on.  It is important for us women to clarify whether our husbands are actually not as loving as before or if we are just a well of endless wishes that can never be satisfied.

You might wonder why I decided to give you some soul-searching questions as a guide to injecting more affection into your marriage.  It is because to change a relationship, one has to change oneself first.  The change in the relationship will follow suit.