- Right reason 1) Because Both of you are ready to start a family
Marriage still remains the best institution for raising a child. This is because a child needs the love of its parents to thrive physically, mentally and emotionally.
- Right reason 2) You are in love with one another.
Love still remains the prime reason for getting married. This is because it takes a lot of sacrifice to look after a sick spouse, be there when the going is not so smooth, etc. Love makes it a lot easier to put up with each other’s quirks and idiosyncrasies.
- Right reason 3) You want to grow with your partner.
This is a very important reason to get married. You must want to grow with your partner, both physically, emotionally and spiritually for it to work out.
Now that we have an idea of the right reasons to get married, what are some of the wrong reasons to marry? Kindly read on.
- Loneliness
- You want a big fancy wedding.
- For immigration purposes.
- Your parents are pressuring you to get married.
- Your friends are all getting married and you are feeling like the odd one out.
All these are wrong reasons to get married. They cause a lot of heartache and pain and can ultimately lead to divorce.
You may now wonder: is it possible to get married to the wrong person for the right reasons? Yes, it is. Below are reasons why it is possible to marry the wrong person for the right reasons.
- We don’t understand other people.
Yes, it is possible to marry the wrong person for the ‘right’ reasons when you don’t understand other people. This attracts you to the wrong person. We need to understand that we are all basically crazy in varying degrees and people put on such a good show… at first.
- We aren’t so used to being happy.
When both people in a union have a set definition of love and meet each other, sparks fly. The people think they are in love with one another but we all should know that our definition of love stems from our childhood experiences at home. This influences what we call love. For most of us, love is tinged with manipulation, criticism, abuse, abandonment, you name it. I don’t want to sound Freudian, but the subconscious mind is very powerful. It influences what we are drawn to. This is why we can marry the wrong person for the right reasons.
- You want to stop thinking about love.
I know, it can be a pain to think about love when you don’t have it in your life. The heartache of trying to be philosophical about it after breakups, one-night stands, etc. can be truly overwhelming. So you jump at the next available person and marry him when he pops the question.
These are some of the reasons why it is possible to marry the wrong person for the right reasons. Because of the law of attraction, we get drawn to a man who seems to want the same ‘right’ reasons for getting married but on closer examination, we see that there is a discrepancy.
Learn to love yourself and be comfortable being single, and then you will be drawn to the right person!
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