Mail from Reader: Irresponsible Husband

Hi Lush,

This is about my husband. Please don't post my name. This man isn't what I envisaged in my life. I pay for virtually everything. Pay house rent, Pay our children's school fees, Pay for food. Pay for everything. I'm fed up. Every day I regret marrying him. He had a very good job and was earning correct money and won't pay for much in the house. He only paid our house rent.

This man goes around with anything skirts. I have herpes now. I've told him no more sex cos I can't let him kill me. He resigned from his job in one of the major banks in Nigeria and started a petty business which was against my advice. I really wish I can't lift this burden off myself. I've been the only one responsible for our kids for the past 5 years. We have twins boys.

His parents keeps telling to have patience. I'm going mad here. I'm almost 35 years old and I can't say I own a land in Lagos. I'm suicidal but I'm keep praying to God to take the thoughts away because of my kids.

It's a shame I ended up with this kind of man. Everyone woman should be cherished. I should be the helper not the bread winner. I can't even attend parties with my friends cos I will think of cost of asoebi, make up, shoes and bag. I'd rather spend the money on my kids.

My spirit is so low. I just had to let this out. I feel so dead within me.

 

It's really sad. A lot of women go through this. I can't begin to imagine what it feels like to be responsible for everything in my household.
May the Lord comfort. Can you get his parents involved? They should be able to help speak sense to him.
I'm sorry you are going through this.