He’s Not Into You, Please Move On!

We are not all static.  Life is all about movement.  Everything flows, nobody and nothing remains the same for long.  Some people come into our lives for a purpose and when that is fulfilled, we need to know the signs so that we can let them go with the minimum amount of pain and suffering.

As ladies, men come into our lives for certain reasons.  Like I said before, just because a man pays you attention does not mean that he is into you or that he loves you.  How then does a lady know when a man is not truly into her and just wants something else from her?  Kindly read on.

• He is inconsistent in his actions.

Talk is cheap and actions speak louder than words.  We all should know that by now.  If you are with a man whose actions don’t match up with his words, it is time to move on.  Such a man is not into you because if he were, he would make all effort to be consistent in  his actions and be honest with you.

• He expects you to change who you are for his sake.

A man who is truly into you should never expect you to change your personality and individuality for his sake.  If you enamor him, he will want you to let your true self shine forth and become more of who you are.  But when he starts criticizing you, expecting you to shape up to his mental ideal of who you ought to be in order to fit his subconscious image of you, it is time to move on.  It is a lot easier to mend a broken heart than a shattered personality and individuality!

• He makes no effort to rearrange his schedule for you.

A man that is really into a woman will make the effort to clear his busy schedule for her.  Even presidents, as busy as they are, make the time out to clear their schedules for their wives and families.  How much more a man who is not as busy as a politician is?  However, if he keeps giving you the excuse that he is ‘busy’ and will not make out time for you, it’s time to jump ship!

• Your gut feeling tells you.

Yes, the oft-misunderstood gut feeling might tell you that this man in question is not into you and he’s forcing himself to act nice to you.  Don’t ignore it.  Women are wired to be more perceptive than men are.

• He does not celebrate your successes.

When you are with a man who feels threatened by your successes, it is a sure sign that it is time to leave him.  A man who is secure in himself will never feel threatened by your success in your career, interpersonal relationships, health or other personal milestones that you have set for yourself.

With these tell-tale signs, you can know whether it is time to leave a man before he dumps you.  Be wise!  It is a lot better to be alone and happy than to be in a relationship and miserable.